The Auden/Kallman relationship had this to be said for it: It affirmed that it's better to be blatant than latent. - Christopher Hitchens
The idea that Love Must Be Tough dictates that we be willing to set another person free- even if it causes us great pain to let go. When we do this, we maximize the chances that that loved one will not leave, because the cage door has been opened and self-respect has been affirmed. - James Dobson